Generation Multi-Tasking – Relationships & Missing Out on Real Life?

February 23, 2018

I’ve become more and more aware of how hard it is for millennials to do one thing at a time. Whether it’s watching TV and being on our phones, watching something on our laptop whilst scrolling though social media or worse, being with people and being on our phone at the same time, it seems that we always have to multi-task.

It seems like it has become impossible for us to do one thing at a time and focus on it. For me, it happens because I try to stay on top of things like liking Instagram photos or tweets from other bloggers, trying to read blogposts when I’m doing something else that doesn’t require too much attention like cooking or watching something on TV. Because I’m at school all day long and have little time to catch up with the blogosphere, I multi-task a lot.

But ever since I’ve started noticing how often I do it, I have noticed that everybody does it and it’s starting to bother me. I try to multi-task when I’m alone as I’m aware that it can affect relationships. I don’t see my boyfriend a lot as we work all day long so I do my best to put my phone on the side when we are cooking and eating so we can actually connect. I do the same when I am with friends, I try to put my phone on the table, often face down so I don’t see notifications popping up.

Technology is amazing but I’m aware that it has changed the quality of relationships. I don’t really like it when I’m talking with someone and they reach for their phone to text and scroll through social media and though I know it’s just a – bad – habit, it makes me feel as if I’m not interesting or important enough for them to pay attention to me.

We are so used to being connected all the time and because it seems like we never have time for anything and are always busy, we try to make up for “lost” time by doing it all at the same time. But I keep asking myself: aren’t we missing out on real life? Because we do several things at the same time, we never really focus on one thing, meaning that the attention we pay to these activities is shared and therefore less appreciated. And because we always rush and do several things, we never take the time to enjoy life and that’s a shame. Whether it’s watching something, reading or being with people, I try to spend more time appreciating what I’m doing and less time wondering what I am “missing” by not multi-tasking. Maybe it’s what we need to feel less stressed and “busy”.

Time flies, and we should make the most of it. In trying to not miss out on everything that is going on in other people’s life and everywhere in the world, we might be missing out on our own life. By trying to do everything at the same time, we might be forgetting to spend time with actual people who matter.


What do you think?

7 responses to “Generation Multi-Tasking – Relationships & Missing Out on Real Life?”

  1. Charlotte says:

    I completely agree with everything you said in this post – I’m making a concious effort to put down my phone at lunch and interact with others – being connected with people on social media often leads to us being disconnected in reality.

    -Charlotte x

    • That’s such a problem, we think that social media is interaction when actually it’s not a verbal one so it really isn’t the same. That’s great that you are aware of it and are making efforts! xx

  2. hannah says:

    I totally agree. I multitask constantly. I will watch Youtube videos while I wash up, check my instagram while watching Netflix. God knows why I have to do two things at once, Netflix should be enough. Im trying to stop it and become more aware of my actions, so its not just a reflex to grab my phone. Were all guilty of it 🙂

    • It’s as if we evolved to multi task. I think it goes with feeling busy all the time, as if we have no time for just one task and should make the most of our time. It’s good to be aware of that and make some changes so that, as you said, it’s no longer a reflex xx

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  4. Anonymous says:

    I agree with you. I see it with my 25 year old daughter and 15 year old son. I’ll admit, at 52, I am also guilty sometimes. I like that you recognize it though and are being more cognizant. I too, am fearful that we are losing the art of conversation (as well as precious time with our family and friends). We don’t bring our phones to the dinner table at home and when out with friends, unless someone truly has a need to have phone access, they are put away for the length of the meal at least. I encourage people to communicate face to face or even a (gasp!) handwritten letter now and then. I think the world would be a little better if we actually spoke with one another and not via tweets, likes and hashtags all of the time.

    • I totally agree with you on everything. I think these are great rules, my parents taught us early on to keep our phones out of the kitchen during meals and I do my best whenever I am with people not to reach for it. So many people don’t know how to talk face to face it’s quite scary to be honest, we are getting bad at actually being with people and opening up to them directly and having conversations.
      It’s good to have that awareness and though technology is amazing, we do have to take time to just be there and talk with one another without the need of a screen and a keyboard. xx

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