In a society of appearances, defining someone as “beautiful” generally means someone with a good physique: good features, fit body, nice smile, long legs, gorgeous eyes, etc…
Often, we meet someone and judge them first and mainly on how they look, how they are dressed, their hairstyle, makeup and and we base our first impression on that. We all do it, I have done it – not proud of that… – and social media doesn’t help.
I get it though, when you see someone who looks put together you get a sense that it must mean they are stable, have a certain purpose to their life and value themselves., or something like that. However, I’ve learnt not to count on that too much, a lot of people I met who were seen as beautiful and put together ended up being quite shallow and uninteresting, of course, this is not at all a generality, just something that added up to the fact that I was convinced exterior beauty wasn’t it all.
I’m a big believer in “you are beautiful from the inside out”. You reflect who you are as a person, on the outside. How you treat people, how you value them, if you respect them, how good of a friend you are, if you treat animals well, if you can be trusted, if you smile to people in the street – and to dogs, dogs are very important – and how you behave matters a lot to me. And therefore, it impacts how beautiful of a person you are to me.
‘True Beauty Grows from the Inside Out’
Because to me, being beautiful means being a good person, being kind, being positive, caring, encouraging, a shoulder to cry on when it all gets a bit too much, being helpful, nonjudgmental, accepting.
I don’t like it when someone judges someone else by how they look on the outside. The inside is what matters. It’s what should be referred to as beautiful. Not their genetics.
When judging yourself, please don’t look at yourself in the mirror. Close your eyes, and instead evaluate how good of a person you are.
And hopefully you will realize that what you should seek is not having the perfect mouth, almond-shaped eyes or hourglass body, it’s being the best version of yourself that you can be.
That’s all that matters.