I’ve become more and more aware of how hard it is for millennials to do one thing at a time. Whether it’s watching TV and being on our phones, watching something on our laptop whilst scrolling though social media or worse, being with people and being on our phone at the same time, it seems that we always have to multi-task.
It seems like it has become impossible for us to do one thing at a time and focus on it. For me, it happens because I try to stay on top of things like liking Instagram photos or tweets from other bloggers, trying to read blogposts when I’m doing something else that doesn’t require too much attention like cooking or watching something on TV. Because I’m at school all day long and have little time to catch up with the blogosphere, I multi-task a lot.
But ever since I’ve started noticing how often I do it, I have noticed that everybody does it and it’s starting to bother me. I try to multi-task when I’m alone as I’m aware that it can affect relationships. I don’t see my boyfriend a lot as we work all day long so I do my best to put my phone on the side when we are cooking and eating so we can actually connect. I do the same when I am with friends, I try to put my phone on the table, often face down so I don’t see notifications popping up.
Technology is amazing but I’m aware that it has changed the quality of relationships. I don’t really like it when I’m talking with someone and they reach for their phone to text and scroll through social media and though I know it’s just a – bad – habit, it makes me feel as if I’m not interesting or important enough for them to pay attention to me.
We are so used to being connected all the time and because it seems like we never have time for anything and are always busy, we try to make up for “lost” time by doing it all at the same time. But I keep asking myself: aren’t we missing out on real life? Because we do several things at the same time, we never really focus on one thing, meaning that the attention we pay to these activities is shared and therefore less appreciated. And because we always rush and do several things, we never take the time to enjoy life and that’s a shame. Whether it’s watching something, reading or being with people, I try to spend more time appreciating what I’m doing and less time wondering what I am “missing” by not multi-tasking. Maybe it’s what we need to feel less stressed and “busy”.
Time flies, and we should make the most of it. In trying to not miss out on everything that is going on in other people’s life and everywhere in the world, we might be missing out on our own life. By trying to do everything at the same time, we might be forgetting to spend time with actual people who matter.
What do you think?